Okay, you know I’m not talking about the kind in that picture. I read something on Tumblr recently, well, a link I should have saved, but it was about the increasing prevalence of facials in porn and real life, and where that came from and what it means. It primarily referred to straight porn, but apparently it started as a way to show the viewer the reaction of the woman to the guy finishing. Since you couldn’t focus the camera on the money shot and her absolute bliss at seeing her man come *coughbullshitcough*, if he came on her face, you had the best of both worlds.
The next point was that this is very demeaning and misogynistic, and way to degrade women. In the many comments there were several younger people (not sure male or female) who said they had partners give them a facial without warning. Most people were outraged that someone would do that without asking explicit permission, other people said they didn’t mind, a rather whatever attitude.
So I started thinking about m/m and how prevalent this practice is. I’ve read it a few times, I can’t think of any specifically off-hand. Perhaps I’m in the “whatever” category, or have been desensitized to it? Is it different than ejaculating on their chest, stomach, butt, *insert other body part*? I’ll be perfectly honest, I’ve not ever experienced this in real life, but I’m assuming my reaction would depend largely on the intent behind it, and the relationship with the person. Like any sex act, it can come across as hot and sexy, or gross and degrading, depending on the situation.
So do you have any particular feelings about facials in your romance? (Or real life, whatever you feel comfortable sharing. I have heard it hurts like a bitch if you get it in your eye.) I’ve never written one, maybe because it just doesn’t pop to my mind as something to include, but if I did, it certainly wouldn’t be with the intent to degrade the other character, just another activity to share between two consenting adults.
I’m declining to post another subject-related pic, but they all look pretty happy in the pics on Google. Ahem.